This Is The Most Powerful Force For Overcoming The Loneliness Of Being Misunderstood

This Is The Most Powerful Force For Overcoming The Loneliness Of Being Misunderstood



Insights from Dan Brown’s Inferno: As Humans We Long to Be Understood

“The worst kind of loneliness in the world is the isolation that comes from being misunderstood.” Dan Brown, Inferno

Dan Brown has been an inspiration to me for years. His novels always seem to expand my understandings and help me to bring words to the very elements I am processing at the time I read them.

As a human race we have become infatuated with creating a world of black and white, good and evil. This polarized view helps to justify acts of war and segregation.

It is our desire to be understood, coupled by our unwillingness to understand that is reflected in the current state of our world.

Whether it is a bombing, a shooting or any other desperate act, people immediately say “I don’t understand how anyone could do that…”

When I express compassion and understanding for the multitude of factors that lead to violence it often makes people uncomfortable.

It is as if my ability to understand is interpreted as an acceptance or endorsement of these behaviors. Even more it is interpreted as a disregard to the identified victims.

I would say that we are all victims and we are all perpetrators of each act of violence that exists in our world.

“It is our desire to be understood, coupled by our unwillingness to understand that is reflected in the current state of our world.”

This is the very reason many people refuse to understand others’ points of view.

When we take the time to understand all the levels that influence those we wish to label Evil, we will in fact find that what we see in others is also within us.

Perhaps it is the fear of understanding ALL the layers of ourselves that shields us from understanding others and keeps others from understanding us.

This is not just about understanding extreme acts of violence.

This happens on a daily basis in our relationships. Most struggles in relationships are the result of one or both people feeling misunderstood.


But how can we understand another when we do not even fully understand ourselves?

In order to understand both ourselves and others we must acknowledge the many layers of our being.

As humans we are all the vibrations from the cells of our bodies to the vast oneness that is All That Is.

In the awareness of All That Is Creative Source we remember that we are pure energy.

As Reflections of Conscious Oneness, we are simply experiencing various aspects of ourselves and therefore no one is separate from us.

Each one of us at our core is simply moving towards this remembrance and therefore at the core all actions are within this Divine Reflection.

At the other end of the spectrum we have the cellular level. In this space our decisions are simply based on a primitive instinct to survive. One acts out it is a fight or flight response to a perceived threat.

Most of our behaviors are influenced primarily from the many levels of vibration within these two extremes and this is why understanding ourselves and others; feeling understood by ourselves and others becomes tricky.

When we learn to consciously navigate the frequencies of this spectrum, especially the middle vibrations, we have an expanded perspective that allows us to fully understand and embrace all of who we are.

With conscious understanding, we acknowledge all the levels of our being from our most primitive survival instinct to our perfect divine reflection.

In this space of conscious understanding, we are able to reflect love into even the darkest aspects of human existence.

Which is good, because Love is the most powerful force in this Universe.


Learning to consciously navigate the full spectrum of your life experience is easier than it seems.

I have developed the technique of Conscious Meditation (CM) which combined with basic steps of self-exploration create a process of integration that allows you to gently navigate these energies in your daily life.

Through Personal Transformation Coaching, I teach you this technique as I guide you in the process of applying awareness to your life and relationships with ease.

Life is easier when you understand yourself and the people around you.

Life becomes even more wonderful as you begin to attract into your life people who are able to understand you in all of your various aspects.



Sheila Applegate

Sheila Applegate

MSW, Conscious Life Coach, Keynote Speaker, Award Winning Author of the book Enchanted One, Founder of Be Awesome: Your Guide to Conscious Living, and Founder Counterpoint Creative Consulting


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  1. Thanks for sharing your view I found it verying interesting.

    • Hi Jeneth Love watching your butuaifel horse doing its thing in the background as you share and the authenticity of your sharing my 3 year old is in heaven with joy and oneness.Years ago when I was practicing hypnotherapy and using a core process..I found my core to be at-one-ment in the light. (Your core state is what you find when you keep going behind each desire until you get to the state where if you had that, you’d have all you desire.) When I feel the oneness in the Light How can it get any better than this????Recently was on a telecall with Greg Braden where he shared how someone in Israel send a facebook to the people of Iran saying how he loved them and didn’t want war with them and received many replies back stating that they also loved the Isralites and didn’t want war. He called war a bad habit and if the people can connect and find their oneness, love and cooperation, there is hope. Loved it!I’ve spent much of my life protecting myself from feeling vulnerable or needing anything and am enjoying life much more as I move into my life purpose of connectedness which I received MANY years ago at an Edgar Cayce workshop and totally had no idea what it meant .have lived within that question for many years now as the meaning becomes more clear.Love,Anne

  2. Thank you Jeneth, SO much for your ongoing messgae and for giving voice to this issue. I do catch myself at times judging others, internally, as I realize through their actions/words that they are perhaps not quite as enlightened as me’.;)When this happens I immediately scold myself for judging others and remind myself that we are ALL ONE, come from the same Source and are all at different places on our paths toward enlightenment. At other times I feel as though I’m being judged and misjudged by those that would seem to be MORE enlightened than me. In all situations I walk away reminding myself to keep to the path in humble service to the One which in turn is to all. I really dislike it when I do that to others and to myself. I feel that I’ve come a long way AND that I have a LOT to learn. LOVE your beauty and your energy and the horses!! You are obviously VERY comfortable with each other. xoxo Sincere gratitude


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